My family lost two of our loved ones recently. The sudden loss on both occasions came as a huge shock. During this painful time, we found comfort by reminding ourselves ‘ he died peacefully’, ‘he is resting in God’s arms now’, ‘… is eternal in the Heavens’. These words helped to console the aching heart.
But what about the children? These words may be beyond their comprehension. It is helpful to know how children understand death at different stages of development. It varies with age but children in general tend not to express their feelings and keep those emotions to themselves. Partly because they probably are confused and struggle to understand their own emotions and partly because they don’t know the words to express what they are feeling inside. They may seem silent and resilient but it would be helpful if a parent or someone close can approach them and start the conversation just to let their thoughts and emotions flow.